I know I passed on some gift guides last week for Valentine’s Day inspiration. It’s on Wednesday. Do it to it people, it’s not too late.
I realized that I didn’t take into account the difference stages of your relationship you might be in.
I’m going to break down some gift ideas based on how long you and that special someone have been canoodling.
If you’ve been dating under a year:
Keep it simple. But you should do something at a bare minimum. You need to let your loved one know you are thinking of them because it is your first Valentine’s Day together after all.
You can do the home made route like cookies or cupcakes, a framed picture of the two of you, or a simple date night out. If you want to pull out all the bells and whistles, have at it. But you will be held to the same standard every year after. Trust me, less is more.
If you’ve been dating one to three years:
While this is slightly dependent on what you have done years past, I’m still going to try and throw you a bone.
You’re probably still in the honey moon phase, but certainly more comfortable and open with one another.
I think these are the years you can do fun, maybe saucy, gifts.
Think lingerie, couples massages at a spa or on each other at home (cost saving!), jewelry and watches. You get the idea.
Like I said, you may have to base it off of what you have done years prior, as well as where you are at financially.
In my opinion, this stage of your relationship is when you are really establishing if this is your person.
If you’ve been dating three to five years:
You will most certainly have favorite places you frequent, know what genre of movies the other enjoys, etc. You have spent enough time together to possibly finish each others sentences.
You may also be experiencing a lull. Not necessarily a bad thing, but you may a established a routine so to say.
Plan a fun weekend trip, try a new restaurant, buy concert tickets for their favorite band even if it’s a few months away.
Go for the shock and awe. It doesn’t have to cost you an arm and a leg. It just needs to be well thought out and have significant impact for your spouse.
If you’ve been dating five plus years:
You’re practically married, or you are married, and you’re running out of gift ideas. I feel ya.
This is the time to pay attention to subtle cues. “I’ve always wanted to do that,” or, “we should go here,” even,”I’ve had my eye on that for a while!”
Ok so they’re not really subtle, but it will show your loved one you actually listen to what they’re saying.
Time to cross those items off your bucket list! Be in two places at once (did you think of a Walk To Remember?), go sky diving, buy that special item they’ve been holding out for.
Obviously gifts are not necessary AT ALL. This is merely some guidance if you’re at a loss for what to snag. You may have traditions set in place like chocolate, other sweets, or flowers. Stick to traditions! People look forward to traditions.
You can also spread the love quite literally this Valentine’s Day. Do a random act of kindness, buy the Starbucks order for the person behind you, or give someone a compliment.
What are some specials items you have planned for Valentine’s Day?