Victor & I don’t have completely opposite schedules, but we certainly have more time spent at work and apart than we have together.
I work Monday through Friday 8am-5pm, which gives me weekends off. Victor on the other hand has a non traditional schedule. He’s off Mondays and Tuesdays. The days he does work his hours vary. I still love my Air Traffic Controller.
Having an opposite schedule from your significant other is both a blessing and a curse.
“Woah, woah, woah…a blessing?!”
I knowwwww, that sounds bad. But EVERYONE needs a little TLC to themselves.
I guess now is the time I should talk about some advice on how we make it work.
Well for one, we both understand we have a good chunk of time on our off days without the other. Therefore the time we do get together we take advantage of. We go to the gym together when we can, we shoot content for the blog, we go to dinner. We make a point to be present with one another even if we’re just sitting and watching TV. Make your partner feel like you are with them, not just in the room.
We’re also really great at being considerate of one another’s schedule. Victor will hang out with me in the room for a little (I usually fall asleep anyway, doesn’t take long) and then carry on with his evening activities (video games) because it’s his weekend. Because I love sleep so much, I don’t mind the early bed time on my actual weekend even though I do not have to be up early the next day. Be mindful that even though you may have work the next day your S.O. does not and vice versa.
Make time to have a weekly “date”. It doesn’t have to be designated as a date, but set aside at least an hour or two where the two of you are 100% immersed in one another. Minimal to no phone, have a conversation, or simply enjoy each other’s company. This can be a round of drinks, a meal out, a workout together, or a movie on the couch. Get creative. It doesn’t matter what you do as long as it feels like quality time spent.
There’s no secret sauce to making a relationship work. It is a dance with two leads. I will say the more you are invested in your partner and their interests the better your relationship will be as whole. Have respect, communicate, but most importantly have fun.
Do you and your significant other have opposite schedules too? Or do you have all the time in the world to spend together?
-xx, Lauren 12